It was either this or get a cel phone (reprise).
Jul. 31st, 2006 | 04:21 pm
music: Robyn Hitchcock - I Often Dream of Trains
Cel phones are the fucking instruments of the Devil. They are singlehandedly responsible for all that is wrong with the world today. They should all be destroyed through spontaneous combustion. I think I might buy one.
Another insomniac morning today. Not getting to bed until 12:15, not getting to sleep until maybe 1, and then waking up at 5 and failing to get back to sleep, except for maybe half an hour before my alarm went off at 7:45. Thinking, how much better than four hours' sleep is four and a half hours' sleep? And answering myself, half an hour better, that's how much.
As far as the job search is concerned: staring into the abyss can be a lot of fun. The abyss is friendly. I think I saw it staring back the other day.
Looks like my home computer is finally starting to crap out, after almost seven years. Getting really slow; heats up quickly and I can hear the fan running all the time. It starts to whine, literally, after it's been on for less than an hour. And the "hard disk is full" message now appears every few days, instead of every few weeks as it did before.
Decided to start a blog on ... oh, hell, how the fuck do you do hyperlinks here? They make it look like it's simple, but I've tried and it's just not working. Anyway, it's at http://underwatermoonlight.blogspot.com.
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Jul. 28th, 2006 | 09:44 am
music: Keren Ann - La biographie de Luka Philipsen
The social anxiety group's close to wrapping up. Last week was intense, with a desensitization exercise for me involving asking women out on dates. (Another guy did a similar exercise, involving telling women he was dating that he was interested in them.) Sort of a simulated form of catching up on all the wonderful rejection and headgames I've been missing in the last few years. But of course it reminded me (as desensitization exercises are supposed to do) that the more I do on that front, the more comfortable I feel doing it, even if I'm always a bit more nervous than the average person. I've been using my current unsettled state as an excuse to put off that side of my life. Once I'm settled into a new place and a new job, that excuse won't work. I hope it won't, anyways.
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Look at that singer, man / He's been doing this for years
Jul. 23rd, 2006 | 09:35 pm
music: Pink Floyd - Atom Heart Mother
That's who Art Bergmann reminds me of. Warren Zevon. In their skewed sense of the world, but also their singing voices, ranging from wry to raw to world-weary.
Would've made a killer double bill, although I think Art was even better. Sort of a Coleridge of rock, in that he was uncommonly brilliant and did keep making records at least for a while, some of which were amazing (Crawl With Me in particular), but he seemed to be cursed by problems ranging from addiction to record companies suddenly collapsing underneath him.
Unlike Syd Barrett, he didn't walk away from it all, at least not as quickly. And unlike Kurt Cobain, he survived, although maybe not becoming spectacularly famous helped in that regard.
Art's last record was over ten years ago, which I understand coincides with when he kicked his heroin habit. So if no music is the price we have to pay for Art staying clean, it's worth it. At least he's still around.
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"Nice" and "hot" are not synonyms.
Jul. 21st, 2006 | 02:28 pm
music: Warren Zevon -- best of. Play that dead man's song....
At least, not as far as the weather is concerned. Why do people like to say "the weather's getting nicer" as it gets hotter?
Hell would be no torment for these people. I'd be sweating bullets and they'd walk up to me and say, "Nice, eh?" The more appropriate form of eternal damnation for them would be to go to heaven, where it's a nice, reasonable springtime temperature, but where they'd stand around shivering, wondering when it was going to get "nice." Meanwhile, I'd accept the torture of the summery weather in hell, where at least we'd have all the cool musicians.
Here's hoping that climate change doesn't just involve "global warming." If it does, the "I-want-to-be-able-to-fry-an-egg-on-the-s
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Jul. 20th, 2006 | 11:42 am
music: Gorillaz - Demon Days
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The snowball is rolling.
Jul. 17th, 2006 | 12:09 pm
music: Lennon Orton Knopfler Mann Waits....
Bedtimes better, sleeping so-so. Still rushed in mornings, but breakfast at home more often. Getting more work done.
Adn ah, the blisssful quiet. Well, hectic as ever really, but a better kind of hectic. Looking forward to the unknown, can freak me out if I do that too much, but I know I'll do what I need to do. And for one of the first times recently, doing something in advance of a deadline -- or without a deadline at all.
It's all good, it's all a hideous mess, life sucks, it's great to be alive.
Oh, and CAROLE JAMES RULEZ!!!111!!! SHE IS A ROCK GOD!
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Jul. 7th, 2006 | 01:27 pm
Forty eight-and-a-half-by-eleven spiral-bound notebooks of varying thickness (between 80 and 250 pages -- I'm about to start the forty-first), a few entries written in pencil or in fineliner or on a computer, but mostly with ballpoint pens. From the idiosyncratic burblings of a preschooler to the neurotically exhaustive emotional narrative of a lonely teenager to the selective and relatively polished recollections and musings of someone who confides most of his thoughts to friends and to internet message boards.
At the start, I doubted whether this blog would really take root, because I didn't see it supplanting my written diaries, and I seem to have been right about that.
Entering a period of weirder anniversaries. This time ten years ago my mom was confined to bed with splitting headaches that were diagnosed on July 13 1996 as a brain tumour, and after an operation in August that left her cognitive functions severely impaired, she died on September 12 of that year.
As an update on the colleague of my mom's who herself had an operation to remove a brain tumour, my dad's had coffee with her a few times since then, and the tumour seems to have been controlled through chemotherapy, but she's also suffered a loss of cognitive function. She's living in her apartment but can't drive, and has trouble walking for other than short distances. Makes me think about what might have been if my mom had lived, but the important thing is the present, and I feel guilty comparing this woman's situation to my mom's, as I'm sure it's difficult enough for her.
Had a weekend of being a bit more sociable than usual, including a meetup of people from an online message board. Got a nasty sunburn on my face. I'm not normally out in the sun a lot, so I'm not used to the procedures I need to take to protect myself.
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I don't have time for this
Jun. 27th, 2006 | 12:52 pm
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Job interview / another rift
Jun. 19th, 2006 | 11:15 pm
And the Babble / En Masse split has spawned a third offshoot discussion forum. Actually it happened a few weeks ago, at the same time that I temporarily walked away from En Masse in exasperation, but the difference was that knowledge of the new site has been kept fairly limited until now -- you sort of have to get invited, and I never was. And the new site has some of the people whose posts I enjoyed reading, and whose company I liked, at Babble and En Masse. But then it also has a few people who complained of En Masse being "toxic" (and who are talking in even more extreme terms on the new site about En Masse and some of the posters there), when in my opinion they contributed in large part to that toxicity. Hard to tell if they're in the dominant group at the new site, where everything seems to be very friendly so far. We'll see. If I don't get so exasperated by all this that I throw up my hands and walk away from the whole damn thing. That's probably what I should do.
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Jun. 15th, 2006 | 05:10 pm
This coincides with a job search that I've been putting off for a long time. I've been feeling pretty depressed about things piling up on that front and others as I procrastinate, and the other day I started making a list of people to contact, and contacting a few of them, in a flurry of activity. Felt better than I have in a while, even though I ended up staying up too late to write a job application. And yesterday my boss (again, coincidentally) confirmed that my job will be ending in the next few months. It wasn't a surprise, and it's good to finally be able to say I know for sure where things stand.
Okay, maybe starting the job search and being in the therapy aren't coincidental. My behaviour is starting to change by virtue of the fact that I'm observing it more consciously. "Starting" really is the operative word. Still encountering plenty of anxiety in social situations, finding plenty of excuses to avoid human contact. Just chipping away at that, I guess.
And I got divebombed by a crow. Was walking back to work from lunch today, and saw a crow on a lamppost, heard it cawing, kept on walking, and then suddenly felt like a small and partly full duffel bag had hit the top of my head. Was confused at first, but quickly figured out what must've happened (unless someone is flying around in an ultralight with a duffel bag attached to a bungee cord or something). They're heavier animals than I would've thought.
I didn't get attacked again, although I passed a few other crows. And apparently it's happened to a bunch of people at the office recently. I remember that when I did some online searching last year, I found that this is crow nesting season. Got a couple of cuts on the top of my head, and it bled a little bit.